In the first part of this article, we discussed the relationship between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law. Now, let us consider some practical tips on being a mother-in-law and a mother-in-love.
- Your son’s home is not an extension of your house.
- Your son’s wife is your daughter, you must love her if you truly love God.
- Your son is married, allow him to live with his wife in peace. They have now become one.
- She is young and will make mistakes like you did when you were a young wife. Treat her like your daughter and forgive her.
- Respect yourself, do not go into her kitchen without her permission.
- Yes, you might be the best cook; whatever food your son’s wife cooks for him is the best and not yours. You can only be the best cook in your home and not your son’s home.
- She is your son’s next-of-kin and not you or his siblings.
- If you are sick and your daughter-in-law is sick, he must take care of his wife before you because she is the number one person in his life.
- Your son is no longer a baby. Stop lording things over him.
- It is very true you are experienced, but you do not have the monopoly of wisdom, your daughter-in-law has the final say in her home.
- You are a third party in their home. Do not interfere or ask unnecessary questions.
- If they offer you gifts or money, take it with thanks and do not complain. It is not a right; it is a privilege. Be grateful.
- Your son’s bedroom is not your husband’s bedroom so keep away from it. If you must go in at all, learn to knock.
- Make it a point of duty to stand in the gap and pray for them every day.
- Your daughter-in-law has her fears about mothers-in-law; prove her wrong by being a wonderful mother to her.
The good news is that if we accept our children’s partners as our own children and show them love, they will value our support and recognize how important we are in their lives and home.